Comments on: On Being Human

By: Miss Medicina

Miss Medicina — Mon, 25 Jan 2010 15:08:09 +0000

Ugh. I HATED splitting our 25 man team into two 10 mans… and it was my idea.

It sounded so great in theory, and everyone was all for it… but when all was said and done, we had two groups of 10 people who ended feeling slightly hostile and competitive toward one another, instead of feeling like one solid team – and they never recovered from that.

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By: Rahana

Rahana — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 13:43:22 +0000

I will admit I haven’t read the comments, as they would probably state what I want to say and then I would have to just say I agree with them all

Now, first thing – you should stop seeing the two teams as “my” and “his”. It’s devastating, both for guild and your relationship too (fighting over a pc game? Although if that is the only thing you would have fight over, then go you ). But this as well harms the guild, as the “naggy guys” attitude will start spreading in the guild and will depress you as leader even more. If I were at your place, I would either shuffle people around every week and even played with my husband (wife) quite often – because if you are 25M raiding guild, 10M raiding is not your main focus and “I want to have fun in game too, because I am human too”; or stopped doing the 10M runs altogether. Let people fry and pug it for week or two, that will teach them to appreaciate ANY guild runs organised for them.

Good luck!

By: Beruthiel

Beruthiel — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 19:39:07 +0000

And for those curious, yes we did go back in and kill the twilight princes of doom last night

Of course after the shaman that was in our 10 man group killed me in the 25 man version by running DIRECTLY INTO the giant glowing orange ball coming at his face, every few minutes in our 10 I’d ask him “and what do we do when the big glowing ball is coming at you?” to which he would reply “flee!”.

I am also feeling much better than I did yesterday! Of course…one of the reasons that I even started a blog was so that I’d have somewhere to release my frustrations in the hopes that it would make me feel better. It is definately working!

By: Beruthiel

Beruthiel — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 19:31:46 +0000

This is actually a really good idea. Since we live several time zones away from server time, maybe this is something he and I can do on the weekends together. Even if it just starts off with the two of us and 8 pugs thrown together two have some wipetastic fun

By: Beruthiel

Beruthiel — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 19:29:33 +0000

We do move people around here and there each week as needed to even them out some, and they are never static teams each week. We look at who expressed interest in going and then split those members up into two groups that we think are fairly equal

By: Beruthiel

Beruthiel — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 19:28:28 +0000

In an effort not to sound like a broken record, I’ll refer you to some of the above responses I left regarding raiding with him

Although, I am sure that he and I will make a change somewhere to help with the issues!

By: Beruthiel

Beruthiel — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 19:25:59 +0000

haha, well please don’t read too much into it! I’m 100% certain it was just his way of dealing with his disapointment! Your perception of him is probably fairly close to accurate, but nobody can be perfect

I know you appreciate us! But thank you for reminding me

By: Beruthiel

Beruthiel — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 19:18:00 +0000

I don’t have to raid with Brade *all* of the time, but I will admit that it would be nice to be able to do a few of the 10 man learning nights with him. So maybe some weeks I will just offer up the one group with both of us in it

By: Beruthiel

Beruthiel — Thu, 21 Jan 2010 19:16:22 +0000

Oh man! How unfair is this! You get to wall of text me, but I write 4 sentances and am made to post in two seperate posts! Shennanigans I say!

You do have a few good points, as always.

I have recognized that at times I put other people’s happiness in front of mine, and I have been working on trying to be better about recognizing when I’m truly unhappy with something and fixing it. This revelation actually came about one night when I started a 10 man alt run…only to end up on the bench of my own run in order to keep everyone else happy.

It was at that point that I decided that I’m going to do some things for myself. And if that meant telling people “sorry this run is full” or even “sorry, my sanity can’t take you tonight” so be it!

And believe it or not, I am about 100 times better about taking some things for myself than I was a year ago.

So I am getting there, honest!

Speaking of peachbellinis, perhaps I will have Brade take me out for some tomorrow night. Mmmmmm….the bubbly goodness!