Comments on: Thoughts on Respect

By: Oliver

Oliver — Tue, 06 Nov 2012 02:13:37 +0000

Hi Beru,

Long time follower, never poster. I have to say your posts always seem to be timely for me, including this one. Thank you for Brain dumping and in so validating my own feelings. It is nice to know that others are facing similar things and feeling the same way.

By: Alq

Alq — Tue, 30 Oct 2012 00:08:23 +0000

Respect’s a pretty important thing. While I don’t know the circumstances in which people have lost your respect, from general life experiences I’m inclined to agree with you on most of the points and add that my huge bugbear is people who don’t accept responsibility for their mistakes. I’d also argue that there are some people out there who are likely to question themselves about things, even if they’re completely innocent in the situation in question, due to the fact that they look to themselves first regarding problems. I tend to prefer these people because they are more likely to admit their errors. Regarding the quitting, I usually have full respect when someone has tried, and tried as we each have different strengths and weaknesses – or walks away from a situation because they’ve had enough of a person’s actions and lack of respect for them. Having only recently learned the value of knowing where to draw a line, I can appreciate that sometimes it’s the best option. Sometimes you have to walk away for your own sake. I would also like to note that these are purely observations overall from my own life and don’t have any bearing on your experiences or in-game situation.

While our reasons for lack of respect may vary, one thing does remain the same throughout. If you care about people, and they act in a manner which loses your respect, it hurts in one way or another, be it disappointment, anger, frustration, you name the emotion. I’m sorry to hear you’ve had such an experience recently. I’m glad you’re surrounded by people who have earned your respect. And respect to you for concentrating on the positive in the situation!

By: Tazor

Tazor — Mon, 29 Oct 2012 23:18:30 +0000

Owned
Forum trolls should go back to the forums.
I am sorry to see that something has occurred in your life to cause you pain. I hope that what ever it is, it will be resolved soon.
You and this blog have earned my respect a long time ago.
Keep up the great work.

By: Beruthiel

Beruthiel — Mon, 29 Oct 2012 21:02:05 +0000

You obviously haven’t been following my blog for very long, if you do not know that this blog is largely a brain dump for my thoughts, regardless of topic or applicability to WoW.

I only have a few rules with regards to comments left here. 1) Never tell me what I should, or should not, write about in my space; and 2) be respectful.

You have managed to break both of the rules that I’ve set in one fell swoop; and subsequently, my Canadian friend, have lost the right to offer further commentary as a result.

I’m not sorry that you didn’t like what I had to say. In fact, I would have encouraged you to stop reading of you didn’t care for it, or even had you refrain from making your disparaging remarks. This is, first and foremost, MY space. If I want to be “emo” or, a giant fuckng mess of emotions a la Bette Midler Beaches in proportion, it is MY right to do so – just as it is your right to feel that “this is one loony, pms-ing, over emotional bitch that I don’t care to read anymore”. However, it is most certainly NOT your right to come and be disrespectful and shit all over my feelings in MY little corner of the Internet.

Oh, and for the record, had I TRULY wanted to be retaliatory, I would have had zero issues discussing exactly what happened and who was involved, as any long time reader of this blog is well aware. This post was more of a brain dump getting things out of my head as I am wont to do in this space. And I do not regret that, will not apologize for that, and most certainly won’t “just remove this post”.

By: Ubersurgeon

Ubersurgeon — Mon, 29 Oct 2012 20:34:25 +0000

You made this post because you felt an event of some kind has removed something of value to you in your life, and you are trying to justify it, attribute it to a reason and retaliate culprit of this event with something. A emotional response to lost is very typical from a human being, there is nothing wrong with it. How ever, stemming any decision, justification or retribution based on an emotional response is a choice made by people that lacks empirical and logical reasoning.

Which brings us to the stem of this post, the lost of respect that you had for certain individual because of some event the said individual have conducted. Publicly stating your loss of respect for the a individual is an act of retribution of some sort to evoke some type of negative emotion in that person and negative stigma on that person from a 3rd party. You did this because you see no other ways to retaliate against that individual, you seek to comfort yourself in by trying to justify that you are the better person. However, your emotions have blinded you from the simple obvious reality, that your only brought yourself to their level and fought fire with fire.

Long story short, EMO post makes you look just as bad. If you value respect from others, then post something that gains it. This post does not make you the better person, in fact it makes you just as disrespectful and egoistic. And If you truly don’t want to spend any additional time or thought about those people you lost respect to, don’t respond to me, remove your above post.